One of the key things a woman needs in her man is to be able to depend on him to “see” her. This means a man needs to identify, understand and meet his partner’s needs through his actions.
What does this look like?
Well, just now my wife is preparing Christmas dinner. She looked in her store of food and realized she did not have the canned oranges that she needed. They come sectioned and ready to add to a salad.
I noticed that we have a bunch of tangerines and mentioned this. She replied that she did not want to have to peel them. So I offered to peel and section them. It took me only a few minutes. But it lightened her load and, I hope, helped her feel honoured for the work she is doing to prepare a special meal for all of our family.
This is a small example. What are the elements?
1. My wife had a need.
2. I identified the need
3. I offered to do something to help her achieve what was needed.
4. I did what she needed done after asking how she wanted the tangerines peeled.
It’s that simple. And it’s that hard. Often the need is not as obvious as in the example above.
So, what are some needs that we, as husbands and partners can watch for and help resolve?
Here are some:
-A need for a clean and tidy home;
-Care for the children;
-Recognition of the partner’s efforts;
-Love and respect communicated in words and deeds;
–To have their feelings heard and acknowledged;
What needs does your partner seem to want you to meet?
If you’re not sure, ASK!
Comments from both men and women are invited!!